Conversation in Interpersonal Communication

Today is second day of deepavali. All of my cousins are at my house. We were in the mood of celebrating deepavali earlier in the morning, but was saddened by the death of one of my cow. All of a sudden, every one's mood swing from happy to sad.
     The cow we had was very attached with my mom and i would say it's kind off intelligent cow because it can understand you and it will give response more than any other cows. It died because of natural cause. We had the cow for more then two years now.
    When they heard the news they were so sad. My mom started to break into tears. My aunties who are not so attached to the cow cried too. I was so surprised to see how people can be so attached to an animal which cannot even talk, but can be so intelligent and so loyal and tame to humans.
    Even when interpersonal communication is not present between humans and animals, but their way of communication is quite impressive. Usually conversation between people  happens in different circumstances. How people communicate with each other determines how the person is. People from a an educated family will know the limits and decency when they communicate. But people from uneducated family would not know decency and may attempt to misbehave.
     Conversations will go flawlessly  if both the communicators know the ethics of communication. But misunderstandings will arise if they don't know how to communicate well.We use interpersonal communication without any consciousness, it comes by the flow. All the cues, like nodding, smiling, facial expressions, and gestures are important in communication.

     So when you talk to people you must be very careful and always pay attention to what they are talking about. Even a small cue can help to hinder misunderstanding.




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human communication

Have you ever wondered how a two year old child can understand and communicate with you even though the child might not mastered any language at that point? The child might just use sign language or might just use 'baby language' and the elders might still understand what the child is saying. How is that? 

        I have a  niece who is 3 months old now but whenever she sucks her thumb it means she'z sleepy and she needs to sleep if not she would open her loudspeaker..  =) She has a elder brother who is 2 and a half year old. He barely can talk, but i tell you, you should see how he will scold you if you say something that he don't like. With his reaction, facial expression and his tone..Omg..It's so cute at times but when we think about it we know that children can adopt or learn a thing that we speak or do instantly. Their ability to learn is so fast and they can remember a thing/ word we say , even once. 

        We communicate with people with different mother tongue yet we become so close to them even though we don't know them, their culture and their background. Language is universal. Your smile is also a kind of language. If you smile at a person, it indicates that your a friendly, polite, humble, easy to make friend and so on. It brings a positive effect on the person who sees you, on your culture and country. 

        We must know that communication is a very important component in our life. When we are going for an interview, the way we carry our self is also very important. We must know how to talk to your employer and know how to dress to go for an interview. 

        In my course we have to do a lot of talking, that means a lot of presentation. If we don't know how to talk  than we cannot excel in our studies.

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Listening and Critical Thinking

i hate having classes with certain lecturers. i dont know why i just cant be focus. it could be my problem but maybe it takes two hands to clap! hahah! im not trying to put the blame on other people but can u guys imagine having a person standing in the front keep reading words by words from the slide with "monotone"? no extra explanation, no interaction with the students, no everything. whenever there was some students who tried to ask a question, the lecturer will always ask this back, "where were you when i was teaching just now? were you daydreaming?". see what i mean?

it is not that we dont want to pay attention, we tried so hard to listen, to understand the lesson. apparently, we were looking forward to some not-so-boring lectures but i got carried away each time when i was in XXX class. and now only i realized that was called mental distraction. i tend to daydream, leave my mind blank. i swear i tried to listen what was XXX teaching but i just cant be focus!

however, not all the lecturers are that bad lah.. there are some other interesting lecturers too! some lecturers can just grab your attention when they started to talk. maybe they dont speak in monotone? i like having classes with those lecturers who interact with students, giving examples or stories, so we dont get bored. ill become a critical listener then :)

by the way, miss allison doesnt speak in monotone!

-weipin-

Language and Meaning.

I am proud to say that i am the daughter of Dr. Balaram. The only daughter if i may add. Hahaha.. I am also proud to say that i am a beautiful short Indian girl :) However, i have a problem. I can't speak Tamil well.. No no.. that would be a lie.. I cant speak Tamil at all.. Its like 'almost' a foreign language to me :S... This is due to the fact that.. at home.. my family and i speak english to each other.. At school my friends consist mainly of chinese and indians... which means we communicate in english too.. This leads to the tamil language being almost non-existent to me... and my bahasa melayu sucks like hell.. i cant even reply the mamak waiters sometimes.. i would talk to them in english and they would try and talk to me in tamil or hindi or even bahasa melayu.. This is my problem. Its just embarassing to be an indian girl and not be able to speak the language when neccessary.. I tried my best to pick up small words every now and then.. but it is so hard to keep track of all the meaning, and i tend to juggle the words and mix the meaning and then when i finally decide to use them, its all broken... This is my problem...

However, i have learned that, if you want to improve a particular language, you must try and mix around with people who uses the language daily.. eventually, you would pick it up and use them the way they use them .. I learned this through my 2 super duper cool sabahan friends.. Liya and Sara (Sara is also my puppy's name).. hahaha.. anyway.. I use to hang out with them all the time.. i would sleep over at their house, spend my weekends with them... we were really tight.. So, these 2 girls speak their local language all the time... When  they're angry, when they're upset, when they're excited, when they're hungry even when they're gossiping!... hahaha.. this may come as a surprise to you.. but it was so easy for me to understand what they were saying... some words were kind of weird to my ear and puzzles me.. but then i got use to it.. and i sometimes speak like them too.. u know.. for shit and giggles.. hahaha... but the moral of the story is.. learning foreign languages may seem hard, but the truth is all you need to do is expose yourself to the people who speak that particular language on a daily basis... because if you hang out with them daily.. you would eventually pick the language up :)

-Gayathri-

Non-verbal Communication

I am a person who 8 out of 10 times would have a "i-couldnt-care-less" expression on my face... I'm just like that.. Im not saying i am arrogant and ignorant.. Im just born like this.. Im actually a cool person if u get to know me :).. People tend to get the wrong impression of me.. One look at me, and they would send a message to their brain saying.. "must-not-mess with-this-girl"... hahaha... Yea i kinda look scary... But im not.. I can be when im angry.. but im not when im my normal self..

You see your facial expressions and body language are very important in life. People will judge you according to your expressions and actions. I am a very very very hard headed person.. I refuse to acknowledge i am wrong at any mean, time or reason possible... when im right, im right.. when im wrong, im still right :D

See my mom and I have an amazing relationship.. I am the eldest daughter and so she trusts me more compared to my younger sisters. I could talk to her about my bf and friends and all.. and she would be cool about it.. However, when we engage in an argument, my mom would transform from this sweet-soft-spoken lady into this super-fierce-angry-mama!.. and due to this.. i would just look her straight in the eyes, which would piss her off even more (because by doing that she knows i am challenging her even more!.. hahaha)...so she would then point her finger at me and shout, "dont u look at me that way young lady!"... then i pull out another trick out my sleeves.. i would just casually look away and cross my arms on my chest :).. you see.. by doing this, i indirectly show my mom-"ok so you made ur point, so?.. i still dont buy it"... sort of my way of being defensive with my arguments against my mom. :) and by doin this, she would stress on her argument even more, knowing that i still think i am right is annoying her to the max...

Oh i almost forgot, the other day i was out to Bangsar Village with my cousin and aunts.. on our way to Bangsar Village, some idiot tried to overtake my aunt, when it was suppose to be her way, and the idiot was driving so fast he caught my aunt off guard when he overtakes us.. Man! He messed with the wrong people.. We have mix pakistan blood.. and you sure as hell do not want to make any of the women in my family angry!.. So what happened was my aunt speed and chased after the guy.. and when she was driving side by side him, she honked with all her heart content and my other aunt who was sitting at the back of the drivers seat, opened the window, knocked on the other cars window and showed the guy both her middle fingers!.. No verbal action needed.. The guy was scared shitless and sped off quickly!.. hahaha.. we had a good laugh, me and my cousin.. but my aunts were all high pitch-voice and all.. :D hahaha... good times good times..

-Aliya Atika-
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Intrapersonal Communication

I am used to getting attention from people. Wherever i go, whatever i use, whatever i do.. there is always someone near by or at a distance staring at me or trying to pretend they aren't looking when it is too obvious that they are. Then more then once they would whisper to each other and eventually sneak in a laugh or giggle in between their whispers.

So yea, Im a big girl. And i am proud of it. You see, im use to people staring at me due to my weight. And during my childhood years.. i would be so self-concious. I would tell myself.. look down liya.. and just walk and ignore.. walk and ignore.. At times i would even insult them in my head. I would fill my thoughts with negative things about them. And oh boy! Man can i can give birth to the most extreme explicit terms no one would even imagine possible! Hahaha... Not to worry tho.. My secret talent is safe with me.. As it remains in my head.. instead of coming out of my mouth :D

But you see, I have grown pass this. I am now a mature-confident and sophisticated lady. I could not give two-shits about what people think or say about me. See my mom told me something very wise when i was young. And this message has been instilled inside of me ever since she said it. Mom said that.. people will always talk, good-bad or ugly.. they would talk.. its just human nature... deep down in all of us, we have little blabber mouths :) hahaha... anyway.. so yea, she then said that these people will talk, but thats it.. they talk.. all they can afford to do is talk.. lets face it.. they cant hurt me.. im bigger then them! hahahaha... so since then, I would make fun of others in my head.. as I know they are talking about me.. its all harmless really.. :) unless they try to act stupid and actually comment in to my face.. :S well then.... SAY HELLO TO MY FIST! :D

-Aliya Atika-
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Perception, Self and Communication

Usually people's first impression on me will be good. They think that i am a studious person, quiet and so on. But none of them thought of whatever my roommate thought of me.

On the first week of college i came a couple of days early and got a small room as i was staying under hostel. My roommate wasn't there yet because her class commenced few weeks later than mine. On one of the weekend i saw she came to leave some of her stuffs in the room.i saw her neatly folded flowery bed spread and her leopard printed storage box. I thought 'she must be a very neat , clean girl', and i was little happy about it because i am a very clean person. Then i walked to my table to leave my stuffs on there and i saw a note!!it says ' hi roommate. see you soon . = ) '. I thought that was so sweet of her but gotta tell. Her hand-writing was UGGLAYY!!Then i went to the kitchen to take something and i saw her parcel and her name on it. 'Adelia '. I first saw her on 19th Sept 2011. She looked fine. A mix blood, 19 year old fun cheerful and yet a creative girl. Soon we became close and she told me that on the first day she came here to leave her stuffs, she saw my helmet ( it was my boyfriend's helmet and i used it whenever we go out for dinner by motorbike). She thought i was a rocker chic@ some 'minah rempit.' She told me that she saw some powder thing on a paper beside my bed. She thought i was a drug addict!!! duh...I explained her that the powder thing that she saw actually was incense stick's ashes and i used to light it for praying purpose.

My first impressions on her was almost the same except for one.She was a super clumsy person and she likes to clutter things. But she is a very nice girl with fine attitude.

Her first impression on me was based on the things that are related me me.So she assumed that i was a bad girl with some bad habits. Sometimes we tend to judge others by the way they dress-up, the way the carry themselves. But we might be wrong. For an example if you watch 'Orphan' the movie, you will know what i'm saying about. 

-kuna-